The liminal space between Christmas and New year
Dec. 27th, 2025 12:19I'm experiencing fatigue, and my ability to transition from family obligations to art is reduced. Anyway, with my mother around, my life is constant family obligation. She's right here next to me, narrating her crossword puzzle. I keep telling her I don't want to help her solve her crossword puzzle, but every now and then she reads a clue to which I know the answer, so I tell her. But the whole endeavor keeps me grumpy.
I'm still trying to make myself draw, in spite of being stranded in Distractionville with no roads out of town. I scribbled this from a prompt, "the frozen pond":

Character notes: I've had a running gag for years where Jon is teaching Cathy how to rollerblade. It originated from a prompt, and every now and then I see another prompt that helps me build upon the concept. Jon has a more general theme of teaching his friends how to play various sports even when he can't engage in them anymore himself. I amuse myself drawing him in various settings, sitting in his wheelchair and bossing a hapless friend around as if he's an expert in everything.
Somebody in that writer's group got very upset with my portrayal of Jon instructing Cathy on her rollerblades. That woman was an occasional wheelchair user herself, with cerebral palsy, and she was openly obsessed with overcoming her disability (or at least appearing to). Wheelchair use in public was humiliating, a sign of defeat. That attitude is problematic, but it's actually extremely common, and fed by biases in fiction in media over the course of all our lifetimes.
Of course I don't want to feed it any further, so I characterize Jon as having a healthier, more rounded view of his disability. But I also realize that by doing so, I gloss over some of the process of grief and healing. In the graphic novel, I cover it more. He's only 6 months into his disability when he's introduced. Right now, in the timeline of the daily comic, he's 2 years into it. That's still not much time, but by now we've gotten to see Jon's healing process in action, if you read from the beginning.
But I think I can justify Jon's attitude. He's used to being a Man's Man, the kind of person who gets to define masculinity for everyone else. Before the crash, he's on top of the world. He's an athlete, a white man of social and financial privilege, he's intelligent and academically gifted, he drinks, he parties, he's an authority figure in his social circle.
When we meet him, most of that life has slipped away from him. But not all of it! His sister, Ella, is by his side, and her friends gush all over him. His old friends and teammates are scarce, but they come around and visit him after a while. In the meantime, he's alone with his thoughts, and he's about to plunge into the bottomless pool of self-pity that's fed by the waters of disability-related shame such as that one writer's group member demonstrated. That's when Maurice shows up, and Jon is suddenly spending his days with this little tough guy - not a 'tough guy' like he has something to prove, but tough as in, when Maurice sees something that needs doing, he rolls up his sleeves and slaps on a thick skin and does it.
And it triggers Jon's need to be a Man's Man. He can't stand to let this featherweight show him up. A man as small as Maurice is supposed to be pathetic, and at first Jon gets the urge to poke at Maurice's defenses to see where to hurt him. But he can't seem to find any weak spots. Maurice stoically puts up with all of Jon's shit.
Jon doesn't realize that the reason Maurice is so stoic is that Maurice sees something to benefit from their arrangement. Getting a job as a home health aide to a man who's essentially his peer, but more privileged and successful than he is, is still a job to Maurice. And he was raised to value employment. He tackles this job the same way he stocked shelves or butchered venison at his family's store.
To examine Maurice's origins, we'll have to acquaint ourselves with his parents! In some ways, they're typical immigrants, but I've developed them in addition to that. But weren't we talking about how Cathy learned to ice skate? She surely did some ice skating as a child, but was out of practice when she bought the rollerblades. Anyway, it's been fun drawing Cathy falling all over herself, less and less as the story arc progressed. Now I can enjoy her being graceful and confident on skates!
I have other things to do today, but I feel like procrastinating.
Beauty Pageants
Dec. 27th, 2025 08:50I was watching Kirk because beauty pageants are in the news- more specifically the ones the current President used to run. O so tacky, O so banal, O so locker-room.
These things keep falling out of the sky, like debris from a volcano. They fall on the American President and the circle of similarly tacky and banal old men- some dead, some not so dead- who have been identified as existing in the orbit of Jeffery Epstein.
First the ash and the red-hot cinders. Then the pyroclastic flow......
Catching up on Christmas
Dec. 27th, 2025 00:49I put Christmas music on and we listened to that until 3:00 when I took him out by bus to McDonalds for a small lunch. I had a fillet-o-fish, yes I actually like those.
Then we went back to my place and listened to more Christmas music til somewhat after 4:30 when the Kid texted and said we should be calling the Uber at 5:30. So at 5:15 I started getting ready, moving the huge bags of presents and the two big boxes, and the bag of food to the door, then out of the apartment, then to the front door, then down to the sidewalk. In stages.
We got to the Kid's apartment and her boyfriend helped us upstairs.
Then we had dinner. It was ham, potatoes, and spinach with mushrooms. All delicious. Then after that we had cookies and peppermint bark for dessert.
We listened to the Kid's Christmas music and talked til almost 12:00 which was starting to get Middle Brother upset, so finally we all left. We shared a Lyft with
Got home and got things set up for bed as fast as possible which is why I didn't post more than I did. Middle Brother went to bed, and I did as fast as I could too.
Woke up this morning at a bit before 10:00. Middle Brother was as usual up and dressed. I put on Christmas music and made us breakfast, and me coffee. Then I deflated and folded up the air mattress, and then showered and dressed.
I asked Middle Brother what he wanted to do and he wanted to go back to his group home, so I got us ready and we took the bus to Jamaica and the LIRR to Hicksville where the person from his group home picked him up. I turned around and managed to make a city-bound train almost immediately so that was good.
I found out that my meeting tonight was cancelled, and there's a good chance the meeting tomorrow will be too, because of the snow storm we have coming, so I arranged with
So when I got home I collected my mail, two new Christmas cards! and packed for a night away. Fed the pets, and left. The snow was just starting. It's still coming down.
Watched Heated Rivalry, and had shrimp for dinner. The final episode is so lovely.
Then I Teamed the FWiB, but his coughing was so bad we had to cut it short.
We vacuum-packed the gluten free bagels that the Kid backed for
Gratitude List:
1. The FWiB.
2. Middle Brother had a good time.
3. The Kid.
4. Riding out the snow with a friend.
5. Christmas cards.
6. Christmas with family.
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Dec. 26th, 2025 18:21Book-gifts
Dec. 26th, 2025 14:38The other one I received was Fashioning Japanese Subcultures(second edition), by Yuniya Kawamura. This one I asked for, from my Mother. I started it as soon as I could, and I plan to read it for a few hours on the plane/at the airport tomorrow. Subculture is a topic I am very interested in, and very probably why I end up doing things like wearing lolita fashion, and having a neocities website. Kawamura, who studied sociology, now works at FIT. She is the "de facto head of the schools Japanese department" according to a person in my local fashion community that was in one of her classes. But anyway, she has a great new and well researched perspective on subculture/neotribes and it is so so very interesting. I would recommend the book to anyone who likes academic writing or niche fashion.
I am not a great writer, and I have a hard time with words. I feel like that comes across in my posts here, but I want to be able to improve my speech and writing, so I will keep trying without becoming too word jumbled.
I hope everyone has a Happy new year and had a good holiday week!
Christmas Day At The Meeting House
Dec. 26th, 2025 08:11Basically we did what we normally do on a Thursday: half an hour's Meeting for Worship, followed by socialising and lunch- only with Christmas trimmings. People came and went- not all of them Quakers. And those who sat down to lunch were a miscellaneous group of people who would otherwise have been at a loose end. There was much too much food- and I'll be eating leftovers for several days- but that is also traditional. It was fun and it was tiring....
Alien Romance, the daily comic strip
Dec. 25th, 2025 09:42
I wasn't going to post a daily comic today, but the prompts were so good! This one covers two: mythology across cultures (at least the first half of that one) and language-learning tricks.
Cathy explains to Maurice the fascination her city, Lyon, has with Saint Maurice, and he hands her a dictionary and asks her to tell the story in English. Maurice, the patron saint of Lyon, was a centurion from Egypt who was sent by Roman Emperor Maximian to secure Lugdunum, the previous name of Lyon. At some point in his service, he found himself required to slay Christians in the area. He refused to do it, so his unit was decimated in the Roman tradition. Eventually Maurice himself was martyred.
I portrayed him as a black African because that's how he appears in the painting on the Wikipedia page.
This scene is a bit of foreshadowing! Maurice isn't saint material, but he will provide a sanctuary for people in need at times.
Thanks to
Merry Christmas to all who celebrate!
Merry Christmas
Dec. 25th, 2025 09:02

Here we are in our holiday gear
Because it is that time of year.
The wind is sharp, the world is sere
Because we're Quakers there won't be beer.
Oh dear.
Happy Thingie.
Dec. 25th, 2025 00:41I'm Cat. Mid-40's AuDHD/C-PTSD who keeps on truckin'. Keeping it short and sweet because my spoons are in the negative.
1.) My bestie
2.) I don't have any lists or fancy wishes. I'm in need of Amazon or Kroger gift cards. That's it. I'm looking at a new year with no way to afford health insurance so whatever I can put in to getting basics is more cash I can put towards my medication.
3.) Be excellent to each other. Do your daily clicks.
That's it. Be safe, be merry, don't let the world grind you down.
Peace.
Christmas Eve early post
Dec. 24th, 2025 20:42I took the dirty kitty litter out and proceeded to the bus stop, where I got the 20 and went to the Jamaica LIRR station. I just missed a train at 12:50 because of having to wait so long for the elevator to the platforms. But the next train to Hicksville was at 1:02 so I didn't have to wait too long.
I called the group home from the train, and when I got to Hicksville it was only a few minutes waiting til they got there.
The trip home was uneventful. We got here a little after 3:00 and I put Christmas music on Pandora until 5:00 when we Ubered to the Neptune Diner.
It was very epty, hardly anyone there which surprised me, and they weren't playing Christmas music. We had a good meal, Middle Brother got his usual cheeseburger and fries and I had apple cinnamon French toast. We both had the chocolate cake for dessert.
Then we took an Uber home, and I put Christmas music on for half an hour, and then put the Clancy Brother's cds on the cd player while I Teamed the FWiB.
Now Middle Brother is listening to the end of the Clancy Brothers cds, an after it's over I'll inflate the air mattress and either we'll listen to Christmas music or else he'll go to sleep and I'll go to my bedroom.
Happy Christmas Eve to all!
Oh, the Kid texted, they were on their way to the airport.
Gratitude List:
1. The FWiB.
2. Got another card today.
3. Middle Brother was successfully gotten and is happy.
4. Nice weather to do this in.
5. The Neptune Diner.
6. All my friends and friends of friends.
I read the Dragonlance Chronicles, and I have Thoughts
Dec. 24th, 2025 22:31I have always liked reading fantasy, from a young age. Maybe it started when I got the Dutch edition of Tanith Lee’s The Dragon Hoard? (Which is hilarious, by the way. If you have a young child in your life, this makes for a great book to read together.) I read a lot of the SF and Fantasy in the local library, especially as a teenager.
My parents put me in the “homework club” at secondary school. My grades were not good, because I was too lazy to really do any homework at home. The homework club convened every day (except the Friday I think) after school hours, and you’d sit there for two hours to do your homework. You were not allowed to leave before the end time, but if you had nothing left to study, you could read a book. I’m sure the intention was for the students to read books for their literature lists, but in the end we could just read whatever we wanted.
One of the boys at the homework club was reading something that was obviously fantasy, because it was titled “Dragonlance”. I think it was “War of the Twins”? Of course I was interested and I asked him about it afterwards. He described tabletop roleplaying games to me (which I thought was very strange and abstract) and how the books were like a description of what happened in the game. (Modern RPGs call this “the fiction”, which, in the case of Dragonlance, it literally is.) We got to talking about fantasy books and became friends in the easy way that boys can decide someone is a friend if they share an interest. Some time later, just before the autumn break, he told me that he was going to host a group to play these mysterious games at his house and that I should come too.
So I went there on the first day of the break (I think it took me two hours by bicycle to get there, he lived in a village at the other end of the city!) and I played my first tabletop RPG. So basically the Dragonlance books are responsible for getting me into RPGs — which they were designed to do, to get more people interested in Dungeons & Dragons. Except that we didn’t play D&D but Rolemaster, and it would take me another six years to play D&D in earnest. And I never read those Dragonlance books either, because I moved completely outside of the D&D “ecosystem”.
So when I came across the Collector’s Edition of the Dragonlance Chronicles, which are the first three novels to be released in the setting, I thought it would be interesting to finally read them. And it’s indeed interesting — but it’s not good fantasy. Be aware that the following will contain spoilers.
As I understand it, the books were written to sell more D&D by showing what kind of adventures you could have when playing D&D. And it is indeed a rather faithful recreation of the fiction that is created by playing D&D, if you squint you can see the rules systems operate just under the surface. That in itself is not bad, but it is also a faithful recreation of the kinds of adventures you’d have in an “epic” campaign played out by teenaged boys. It really has it all. The “you all meet in a bar…” beginning. The janky inconsistencies in background events because nobody remembered clearly what happened last session. The plot immunity, because as a GM you don’t want to kill off your PCs too easily so you have to insulate them from the worst combat results. There are all-powerful “GM NPCs” where a GM just wanted to play a cool guy (or gal) and basically used this NPC to overshadow the PCs.
The first novel, Dragons of Autumn Twilight, was written in 1984, well into the second feminist wave. But the way women are written and their relationships with the male characters is… not good. The romance (if you can even call it a romance) between Riverwind and Silvermoon make me wonder if the writers ever met two people who were in love. And for some reason they find it very important to let the reader know that all of the women are virgins. There may be a bit of fooling around, but obviously there is no sex before marriage! The single exception is Kitiara, who, to nobody’s surprise, turns up as an “evil” enemy commander. Much is made of how she takes men to her bed, and it takes only one night to turn a “good” character to her evil side. The message is obviously that sex does bad things to people!
There’s some sexual violence casually mentioned too. Some of it is in the past and not really dwelt upon (Tanis’ origin story), some of it is passed off as “just the way things are” (Tika having to deal with drunks pawing at her) and one bona fide attempt at rape that thankfully doesn’t get anywhere (when Laurana gets kidnapped). Yes, the 80’s was a different time etc, but it sure left a bad taste in my mouth.
D&D has a bad case of biological essentialism: all kender are child-like in demeanor, all dwarves are grumpy, etc. That is reflected in these books as well: Tanis is a half-elf, which means he is some kind of diplomat because he straddles two “races”, making him the leader of the group of course. And we only really see a single dwarf, and he’s grumpy… On one hand you know what to expect, on the other hand it makes the non-human characters a bit predictable and as the story progresses a bit tiresome.
The characters are supposed to be good friends, but they spend an awful lot of time full of mistrust of each other, very angry or outright fighting. Maybe this is also modeled on how teenage boys form friend groups? Raistlin deserves a special mention — we’ve all played in a campaign with an asshole who played an asshole character under the guise of “that’s what my character would do!”
The trilogy compares itself to the Lord of the Rings: the back flap even has a quote from Dragon Magazine, which names it “…a trilogy that should at last satisfy the old demands for ‘something to read after the Ring books.'” They don’t name the books by name, perhaps because TSR (the publisher of both D&D and these novels) had been sued by the Tolkien estate 7 years earlier for using names from Tolkien’s works and they tread more carefully after that. And of course Dragon Magazine is full of praise for the trilogy, because that was published by TSR too!
But that’s where any comparison has to end. Tolkien’s works are epic in the classic sense: there is a rich world with a rich history, some of which we get a short peek at. Things are going on just out of sight and the characters make a plan on how to achieve their goals in the middle of that. In these novels, by contrast, everything is just a set piece that is there, waiting idly for the characters to arrive. At no point did I have the feeling that there was a world off-screen (if you can call it that for a book) that was believable and in motion. It’s all so… pedestrian.
The scale certainly is meant to be epic: a world-spanning war with the evil side using dragons! And the first dragon we meet is terrifying! But soon, they’re relegated to being merely flying mounts with teeth and an attitude, and the whole thing feels cheapened. It’s like “oh, yeah, the dragons are also around somewhere…” and I feel that if you call your novel cycle “Dragonlance” there should be more dragons and more lances in it than this cycle has. We only see a dragonrider using a lance against another dragon, and it’s turned into some kind of slapstick with a kender and a dwarf crawling all over their dragon mount…
And yes, there are “funny” moments in there as well, whole scenes turned into some kind of slapstick. That certainly doesn’t help with setting an “epic” mood! Another gripe is how whole episodes are just skipped. “Oh, when we re-join our heroes they went to the ice wall and retrieve a piece of a dragonlance from a dragonrider encased in ice, and are now on their way back.” I mean, how is that not a big part of the story!?
Is it all bad? I mean, it’s not good, but I did read the whole thing and gave it 2 stars. Because it is interesting. You want to know what happens next, how the story develops, what new set piece is next. I did not read the whole thing through in one go — I had to read a little ‘palate cleanser’ in between the second and third book because it was getting to be a bit much. But if you frame it as pulpy fantasy aimed at teenaged boys, then it’s enough to keep your attention. That being said, I will not seek out any of the other books in the Dragonlance setting. Once was enough for me.
Crossposted from my blog. Comment here or at the original post.
Call for Topic requests in Alien Romance
Dec. 24th, 2025 15:43I know I haven't been running Alien Romance here on DW for very long, but I won't have time to post any daily comics today, so I think I'll try calling for topic requests. You don't have to know anything about Alien Romance to make a request. It can be a general character development question. It can be related to something that happened to you today, or a topic that is near and dear to your heart. If you saw me hinting at something interesing and want me to elaborate upon it in comic form, this would be a good time to suggest it. If you just want to offer me a challenge, I'll give it my best shot. I'll try to stay within continuity, so no flash-forwards, but I can do flashbacks.
Also, if you like stories of diverse genres, I recommend
Picture Diary 113
Dec. 24th, 2025 17:491. Great-great-great-grandpapa

2. Dancers

3. Untitled

4. Sitting on the dock of the bay

5. The young king

6. Twilight

Seasonal Greetings For 2025 🎄
Dec. 25th, 2025 01:12Generic non-religious cards are fine, but cards with cats, space, dinosaurs, godzilla, cryptids, or anything from the following list would be amazing, bought or homemade, thank you <3
Yule
Jólakötturinn the Yule Cat
Winter Solstice
Summer Solstice (I’m in the Southern Hemisphere)
Catmas
Trekmas
Sithmas
Krampus
Moomas
2. Big Finish Gift Card(s)
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Please make sure you set the purchase currency to NZD, otherwise I won’t be able to use it. Thank you.
My account email is louise.mcculloch@gmail.com
3. DriveThruRPG Gift Card(s)
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Any amount, I buy a lot from DriveThruRPG.
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4. Etsy Gift Card(s)
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I’ve preset it to AUD because that’s the closest to NZD for me to be able to shop with.
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5. Wild Beyond the Witchlight DnD Miniature - Dirlagraun
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6. Wild Beyond the Witchlight DnD Miniature - Star
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7. Spelljammer DnD Miniature - Living Ship
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8. Spelljammer DnD Miniature - Helm
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9. Magical Kitties Save the Day
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Surprise me! Anything at all, especially any of the Hometown adventure books, the only thing I don’t need is the Character Sheets, I got those last year.
10. Star Trek Picard Season 3 Uniform Shirt - 3XL / Blue
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I was promoted to Captain a few years ago and I would really like to look the part.
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Christmas Eve
Dec. 24th, 2025 15:41Sej was playing a game last night into which he co-opted me. We were in a rescue helicopter being chased by a ghost. He phoned whoever it was we were rescuing. "The ghost is coming, but don't worry; we are on our way." Mike broke it down for me. The helicopter comes from Peppa Pig, where it is piloted by the omnicompetent Miss Rabbit (Sej's favourite character) and the ghost from his recent experience of Halloween. Sej loves Peppa Pig; I watched some episodes with him at breakfast time and hated it- for the very reason he eats it up- because it's so mundane. Little kids adore the mundane because to them it's all new and exciting and they're on a mission to make sense of the world. When I was his age my favourite TV show was a thing called The Woodentops which featured a boring family of dolls doing bone-achingly boring things- and preferred it to shows like Andy Pandy and The Flowerpot Men- which had a touch of the fantastical. By the same token Sej would rather watch Peppa than In The Night Garden- which is weird and wonderful and representative of what adults think the child should want. Older children love magic, but it's an acquired taste. For the toddler it's sufficiently magical that s/he has teeth to brush and hair to comb....
Sej and his parents have gone now. The sun is setting. By this time tomorrow we should be winding up the Christmas carry-on at the Meeting House.
Up early
Dec. 23rd, 2025 22:23They picked me up and we went to Dunkin' Donuts for coffee, and then to BJs. At BJs we got appetizers for bringing to Christmas. I should mention it was half raining, half snowing, so ew.
Anyway, after that we went to Shop Rite and got some more stuff that ze needed.
Then they dropped me off at home. I had breakfast at that point, and put in a Shipt order. I waited for that, and I waited for the mail because I knew from Informed Delivery that I had a Christmas card coming from Cousin Cliff.
I put the Shipt order away, and when the mail finally got here I hung the card with the others. I hope I get some more, there's tomorrow, and the days after Christmas before New Years where it's possible. But as it is I got eight.
Anyway, I took a nap, and then I took out two loads of cardboard recycling and walked around the block each time.
At 7:00 I Teamed the FWiB. Then at 8:00 I had my Al-anon meeting by Zoom.
After that I had dinner, and went to the bedroom to play solitaire until pet feeding time.
My email to the FWiB was working fine for the morning then stopped again like yesterday, showing as undeliverable. Very frustrating. Shifted to gmail again.
And tomorrow is Christmas Eve.
Gratitude List:
1. The FWiB.
2. RK.
3. Got the appetizers.
4. Cousin Cliff.
5. Most of the recycling is out.
6. Christmas Eve tomorrow.
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Dec. 23rd, 2025 16:09The apt bldg party was not bad except this crazy homeless woman barged in and started throwing food, sitting on the floor like a dog, shoving napkins between her legs etc. and the idiot manager refused to throw her out or even tell her to stop it. (This is the same asshole who is always rude to me.) Finally these two old ladies who live in my bldg kicked her ass out. Yay, them! I went up to them and thanked them.
Holidays
Dec. 23rd, 2025 16:48There are a few stores there I am excited to go to, mainly being the John Fluevog store.. I have always wanted boots from there but never done it because I worry about the fit and don't want to go through the whole buy and send back to get another size fiasco. So hopefully if they fit well, I will be able to buy a dream pair of shoes :].
I finished a few embroidery projects for gifts for people over there I am excited to give, I may talk about later in Jan. in some kind of big crafts I did in the past month and a half post. When I get back I plan to make a bead tapestry thing for my sister, and I want to get fabric to make myself a new dress. We will see...
That's all for now, I am a bit burnt out and discouraged the past few days. Running around with family can be fun but is very very exhausting.
Tuesday word: Reindeer
Dec. 23rd, 2025 12:44Reindeer (noun)
rein·deer [reyn-deer]
noun
1. any of several large deer of the genus Rangifer, of northern and arctic regions of Europe, Asia, and North America, both male and female of which have antlers.
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How does reindeer compare to similar and commonly confused words? Explore the most common comparisons:
reindeer vs. deer
caribou vs. reindeer
Origin: First recorded in 1350–1400; Middle English raynder(e), from Old Norse hreindȳri, equivalent to hreinn “reindeer” + dȳr “animal” (cognate with deer )
Example Sentences
It's also got a proper tree with decorations, there's a Rudolf reindeer toy and they've put some thought into all the splashes of red.
From BBC
"The trip meant so much to us. Leighton loved Lapland and enjoyed all the activities like visiting Santa's post office, Mrs Claus' house and seeing the reindeer," he added.
From BBC
Animal activists are calling for a ban on live reindeer events this Christmas, claiming their evidence shows serious welfare concerns.
From BBC
Let the reindeer chow cool before serving — or packing.
From Salon
A sign states that “Santa is feeding the reindeer.”
From Los Angeles Times
Alien Romance, the daily comic strip
Dec. 23rd, 2025 10:13

It was long, so I left the art unfinished, as usual. And it has everybody in it! Maurice on the phone. The tall, quiet guy is Ren. Jon is the blond in the wheelchair. Ella serving food and Cathy is the little one with the headband. It's like a character guide!
Translation:
Maurice, in Vietnamese: "Only English. There's no French."
"Oh! I'll ask her."
Maurice, in Spanish: "Cathy, do you speak Spanish?"
Cathy, in French: "I understand a little, but can't speak it."
Maurice, in Vietnamese then switching to English: "No go, Ma. Okay, I'll find out more and call back later. Bye, Ma!"
Ella: "How do you switch languages like that?!"
Maurice: "It's not easy. Everything gets mixed up in my head and I have to sort it out before I speak."
Ella: "Well, I'm impressed. You're like a one-man UN."
Maurice: "I swear I'm not."
This And That
Dec. 23rd, 2025 11:38YouTube is sending me lots of little filmlets dedicated to the proposition that the President of the USA is an arse. Well, I've known that for years- so I mostly ignore them. I wonder whether if I were Maga I'd be getting lots of little filmlets telling me how he's the greatest President ever....
The day before the day before Christmas is mild and grey. Mike and Su and Sej are visiting this afternoon and staying overnight. Our cleaner is down with the flu so the house isn't as shiny as I'd like it to be.
I've been blowing up inflatable reindeer antlers and inflatable rings. They're for a game of seasonal hoopla. You put the antlers on your head and people try to throw the rings onto the tines. Here's Ailz modelling the look.

Last Night's Dream
Dec. 23rd, 2025 08:16A young boy is behind the wheel of the car and I'm in the passenger seat. I let him move the car forward a few feet.
"That's enough" I say.
Then I'm driving.
But I have to go very slowly and carefully because the lane is crowded with children walking home from school....
Pretty quiet day
Dec. 22nd, 2025 22:21So instead of going to the store for the rest of the day I did very little. The main thing was wrap the last three presents, the e-spinner for the Kid, the beer brewing thing for her boyfriend, and the ingrediants pack for the beer, which is coming from
So I put Pandora on Christmas music, and set to it. Then I poured myself eggnog, and that's about it for any actual useful thing I did during the day.
I took a nap, and I played solitaire.
And of course I Teamed the FWiB. Our emailing was disturbed by my email to him from Earthlink bounces as undeliverable. I switched to my gmail account and that worked but it's annoying.
So anyway we'll see what happens tomorrow, either I go shopping with RK and
Sadly, no new Christmas cards today.
Gratitude List:
1. The FWiB.
2. Gmail.
3. Final presents wrapped.
4. Eggnog
5. Naps.
6. Restful day.
Monday Word: Ignavia
Dec. 22nd, 2025 17:56noun
1. the sin of sloth or idleness or moral cowardice.
examples
1. Every honest man will admit that a violent effort is necessary to shake off ignavia critica critical laziness, that so widespread form of intellectual cowardice; that this effort must be constantly repeated, and that it is often accompanied by real suffering. ON BELIEVING WHAT WE’RE TOLD. 21 Dec 2004
2. The pity that proves so possible and plentiful without that basis, is mere ignavia and cowardly effeminacy; maudlin laxity of heart, grounded on blinkard dimness of head -- contemptible as a drunkard's tears. Latter-Day Pamphlets. Thomas Carlyle. 1838
origin
Latin
The Divine Comedy, Purgatorio, Canto 18: The multitude of the slothful - Illustration by Gustave Dore

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Dec. 22nd, 2025 14:44Thank you so much to my friends who sent me Xmas cards! They were all super cute!
Alien Romance, the daily comic strip
Dec. 22nd, 2025 14:18
Jon is sitting on the couch, watching TV. I should've drawn his crutches in there. I keep intending to go back into panels and draw either his crutches or wheelchair, whichever is appropriate, while he's sitting on the couch. Ella comes to bother him.
"So, Jon," she says. "Know how you're considering applying for a Master's of Education?"
Jon sighs. "That's just a pipe dream, Ella."
"But what if it isn't?" insists Ella. "What if you got a little teaching practice in?"
Now Jon is standing on the sidewalk beside Ella's VW Rabbit. Cathy is awkwardly holding the keys. "You're only the second person Ella has allowed to drive her car," Jon observes. "Okay, hmm. Let's give 'er a spin and see what words you need to learn."
***
Jon's friendship with Cathy is a whole story arc unto itself. He's a very verbal communication oriented person, although he's not particularly talkative himself. He just insists on things being stated clearly, and resents confusion. Cathy, meanwhile, is a whirlwind of chaos. Sort of. She's only as chaotic as I am - internally consistent, but not up to the clarity standards of the people around her. So how do these two connect?
It might be that Jon perceives Cathy as a challenge, and one he takes very seriously. Can he find common ground with his good friend's new wife, even if they can't properly converse?
Also, talking to her is like talking to a dog; she's warmly attentive but can't understand very much of what he says. The perfect confidant! Maybe?
And what does Cathy see in Jon? Maybe she sees nonthreatening masculinity. In the book, Cathy has run-ins a couple of times with men that end up going badly for her, to the point where she actually tells Maurice that she's afraid to try again. (In French, and it goes right over his head.)
A Quaker Solstice
Dec. 22nd, 2025 08:45We were at the Meeting House twice yesterday. After the morning meeting some of us went back into the Meeting Room and sang some carols. Ali is a piano-teacher- and the electronic keyboard that sits in the corner is getting some use at last.
And in the afternoon, as it grew dark, some of us gathered in the Meeting Room and sat in silence by candllight. We had so many candles!
Quakers don't observe festivals- only they do. Just as every member is a priest so every day is a holy day: that's the thinking and it's all very high-minded but we're only human and where's the harm in having fun? Note that only some of us carolled or did the candlelight thing. Friends don't fall out over inesentials- like beliefs and customs.
I'm not a Christian, only at Christmas perhaps I am. I doubt there was actually a stable and a star and shepherds in the fields and travelling magi, but that's not the point? This is myth and it's grand and glorious and it comes from a depth the rational mind can't plumb.
Union Square again
Dec. 21st, 2025 23:57The trip in went fine, and we met in the science fiction and fantasy section. I didn't buy anything though. We shopped all through the store, and ze got some things.
Then we went to the Union Square Holiday Market, and got lunch, lobster poutine. It was sooooo good!
We shopped through the market, again, I didn't get anything except something to drink.
Then we went to the Strand. Again, I didn't buy anything, but ze did.
Then we went to Forbidden Planet, and finally we got food for dinner at Whole Foods. While we were there, I called Middle Brother.
Then we went home, we took the 6 train together but I got out at Grand Central and transfered to the 7. Took that to Flushing and the 44 bus home.
All was well, and I fed the pets, and then Teamed the FWiB.
Just as we were saying goodbye,
And today is the solstice, and the days will get longer again now, and this is a very good thing. The light returns.
And now it's time for bed.
Gratitude List:
1. The FWiB.
2.
3. Nice day in the city.
4. Middle Brother doing well.
5. Plans for Christmas.
6. The solstice is here.
Alien Romance, the daily comic strip
Dec. 21st, 2025 16:16
Maurice: "Ella, I called the DMV, and it turns out Cathy's license isn't valid here. But she can get a state license for visa holders."
Ella: "That's inconvenient. How long will the new license take to get?"
Maurice: "She'll have to pass both the written and the driving exam. Which means..."
Ella: "She has to study. In English."
Maurice: "You like teaching, right?"
Ella: "Uh, sure."
Maurice is using Ella's manipulation trick back on her! He's learning!
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Dec. 21st, 2025 11:54Celestia Luna Abstraction
Dec. 21st, 2025 09:53
Source: https://tantabus.ai/images/33301
Pastiche machine generator: jinkiesnoob. Prompter: aiponyanon.
Back in 2011, 2012, there were more artists dabbling in abstract pony fanart. With a new medium comes experimentation.
It's the winter solstice time (in the northern hemisphere). It's in my agenda but they neglected the hour... plus, the summer solstice is due on December 22nd in Oz[tralia]. Winter solstice at 10:03 EST, so in about 10 minutes. Ergo, it's still autumn for just a wee bit longer, then party time. Maybe I'll sacrifice a banana. In Oz, let's see... summer in 10 minutes so... at 2:02 AM AEDT, December 22nd. There's probably something going on with the seconds there, to make it a minute early. Australians, early for the holidays and new year, late for the solstices, too many letters in the time zone and a minute off. I blame the drop bears and the snake bites.
Meanwhile, in Equestria... after running every which way across the countryside to knock down all the leaves, plus raking them up in time to get buried in snow, will ponies be too tired to celebrate? If they sleep through the entire night on the longest night of the year, Luna is going to snap!
Sunday Word: Mephitic
Dec. 21st, 2025 11:41mephitic [muh-fit-ik]
adjective:
1 offensive to the smell
2 noxious; pestilential; poisonous
Examples:
Like a mephitic vapor from a sword-and-sandals epic, it slips under the door frame and into your head. (Guy Trebay, We’re Holding Tight to Our Good Luck Talismans, The New York Times, April 2020)
These moments of reckoning - in which something that once felt exciting begins to seem noxious, mephitic, dangerous - are important to heed. (Amanda Petrusich, A Quest to Rename the Williamsburg Bridge for Sonny Rollins, The New Yorker, April 2017)
The A66 motorway takes you along the bank of a river that eventually opens into the Cantabrian Sea, but there's no water to be seen through a mephitic landscape of factories and warehouses. (Paul Richardson, A great white hope in Avilés, Asturias, The Guardian, July 2011)
Mephitic vapors - spontaneous combustion - pressure of gases born of long decay - any one of numberless phenomena might be responsible. (H P Lovecraft, 'The Haunter of the Dark')
I even made them remove from the opening, as I smelled the mephitic air that issued abundantly from it, and began myself to feel giddiness in consequence of having gone too near; so that I was compelled to withdraw quickly, and inhale a purer air. (Johann David Wyss, The Swiss Family Robinson)
Origin:
1620s, 'of poisonous smell, foul, noxious,' from Late Latin mephiticus, from Latin mephitis, mefitis 'noxious vapor, a pestilential exhalation, especially from the earth' (also personified as a goddess believed to have the power to avert it), an Italic word of uncertain origin. English use of mephitis is attested from 1706. (Online Etymology Dictionary)
One Of Those Dreams
Dec. 21st, 2025 08:31Grave stones, flowers. The usual. The landscape of the inner planes...
And then I meet the old woman. I say "old" but in fact she presents as younger than I am now. It's just that she's wiser than me. My senior. I have a name for her- "Hypatia"- though I haven't encountered her under that name for decades.
What is she? The goddess? My guide? My higher self?
Whatever. Names and labels are immaterial.....
What matters is she's back.
"How have you been?" she asks and I tell her.
"I'd like to introduce you to my friends," she says.....
A somewhat belated wishlist
Dec. 20th, 2025 23:14This year I don't have a ton of things to wish for:
1. Volunteer to help with the Yahoo Groups (Fandom) Rescue Project. It's a massive project but it would be so neat to get it all done, and 100 good volunteers would do it. Other than anime in general (some specific fandoms not counted there) and a few tiny things, most areas are still open for tagging (everything from genealogy to bands to alumni groups to every fandom under the sun that existed before 2019). All you need is time, the ability to use Google Sheets, and the ability to be careful with details. If you can't do one of those, maybe you know someone who could and might be interested in helping? Just tell them about the project, perhaps? :)
2. Old educational software (game or not) for Windows you don't want or can't use: (But definitely ask me first, in case I already have it and you'd be wasting your time/money to send them here.) I'm taking old computers people can't use or don't want, putting Linux on them, and configuring them to be useful for a local school or low-income families. If the computers are relatively new enough (like Windows 10, as opposed to Windows XP or 7) I can install a software program called Lutris which acts as a one-stop game/program launcher for games from a number of sources - not only modern Linux ones, but modern Windows games, DOS, Amiga, and my favorite - old games (generally abandonware at this point) that ran on Windows 3.1/95/98. It's easier to run them on Linux now than Windows, and I've been figuring out how to create Lutris installer scripts for many games to make it easy for others. So if you find you have CDs of educational software/games from that era which are buggy or just don't run on your Windows 10/11 computer, and you want to get rid of them, I'm happy to be the destination for them.
3. Donate older-but-still-usable electronics to organizations that can make them useful. I love seeing computers revitalized with Linux. While I'm sure you're too far from me to donate any to my project (anyone in western WA state? lol), there are organizations in many locations that will refurbish and make older computers useful. (Though I maintain that to really make use of old hardware you have to switch away from Windows - which is far more resource-hungry than most Linux distros. I don't know how many organizations consider that one, lol.)
4. Write me a fanfic! You can find my fanfic exchange letters here.
Fandom list (going back to 2019 as far as the exchange letters go): 1-800-Missing (TV), Alphas, C-16: FBI, Cybergeddon, Earth Girl, Gold Diggers (1996), Law & Order: SVU, Leverage, Lois & Clark:TNAOS, Profiler, Push (2009), Rizzoli & Isles, Rookie Blue, Smallville, Sue Thomas F.B.Eye, The Pretender, Tomorrow When the War Began (2010), Women's Murder Club (TV), Worldweavers, X-Men original timeline movies
I'm not currently interested in receiving Matrix fic, and haven't watched past S3 of FBI and S2 of FBI: Most Wanted, so although you'll find those in the exchange letters, it's probably best to stay clear of those (unless you think you can write a spoiler-free FBI or FBI MW fic). And I know this is very, very late to ask for a fic, and I absolutely don't expect one by Christmas or New Year's or anything like that - but you will honestly make me happy *any* time of the year if you write me a fic, so if this is something you think you can do, please don't worry about timeframes. :) (Use the DNW list from the most recent letter or letters if you do.)
5. Obligatory Amazon wishlist: Here
I'm always good with used books, and for CDs/DVDs I just want them in nice enough condition that they aren't scratched.
6. Music instruments: This one I don't expect to ever receive, but I'm wishing anyway. Should you come across a spare musical instrument, I can put it to good use. Either by playing it myself (pretty much anything stringed I'm good with) or by giving it to someone else who can't afford an instrument but who has talent and desire to play.
7. Code me the program I've dreamed of. This one's just as unlikely as the last, lol. I've learned some programming skills but I don't have the time to learn more, and I would have to be mentored through creating this program specifically anyway, lol. Some years ago I created a 14-page outline of a music player that I would love - and there isn't a single program out there that even comes CLOSE to having the features I want (multi-genre labeling and filtering without interacting with the actual files' tags, for instance). I run Linux Mint as my main OS and would want anything I use to run on Linux natively.
If you're going the route of mailing me directly (such as for wishes #2 or #6, or if you have a personal copy of something on my Amazon wishlist that you want to send), PM me for my address.
Al-anon and Starsky and Hutch
Dec. 20th, 2025 22:42The meeting was very good. People had brought treats. Then I went to the diner, driven by S with G as usual. I had my usual bacon, egg, and cheese on an English muffin, but with hot tea instead of iced coffee. It made a nice change.
Taking the bus home, I rode with G until I had to transfer to the 12. That was nice.
Coming home, I had two Christmas cards. One from Laurie, which I expected, she sends one every year. And one I thought at first was from Sue, but the address didn't look right. Looking at the picture on the card, I realized it's from one of the boys, at first I thought Ricky, but looking closer, I think Matt. The problem is it's only signed with the last name, so I'm not sure. But there's only two kids in the picture, and I'm pretty sure Ricky now has three, so I think it's Matt. I had no more of the cards I've been sending left, but I had a box of leftovers from a previous year, so I used one of those to send back to them. And the only name I used was mine, so no fear of making a gaffe that way.
But that's really nice. Three members of the younger generation sent me cards, Sara, Kristen and Matt. Kristen does every year, but Sara and Matt were a surprise. Very nice to be remembered like that.
Anyway, I put the cards up and then went on the Starsky and Hutch chat. I made it just in time for the tag ending to Little Girl Lost, the Christmas episode. I like the tag, it's nice.
Then we chatted until almost 6:00. We talked about many things, including Heated Rivalry, so I was able to rave about that a bit.
After we got off, I puttered online til 7 when I Teamed the FWiB. We talked for an hour and a half, though I got a phone call from
Then at 8:30 we got off and I had dinner. Then I went to the bedroom and played solitaire til
Gratitude List:
1. The FWiB.
2. My meetings and the people there.
3. Christmas cards.
4. Family.
5. The Starsky and Hutch fandom.
6. Plans for tomorrow.
Alien Romance, the daily comic strip
Dec. 20th, 2025 17:12
Back to paper and pencil for a day, while I wait for my Wacom to recover. It did actually recover, but I was almost done with this when it finally finished drying out, so I finished. I want to stay a little more consistent, so I'll try to do it digital as often as I could.
Ella and Jon work at different locations of Giant Supermarket, and Jon doesn't drive yet, so Ella could use a little help! "Maurice, does Cathy have a license? Giant scheduled Jon an hour before before me!"
"I'll ask her," Maurice says, and to Cathy, "As-tu une licence pour faire une voiture?" To drive is 'conduire' but I had to look that one up so Maurice probably doesn't know it either. So he asks her if she can do a car. Good enough, in a relationship built on 'good enough'.
Cathy digs around in her oversized bag and cheerfully presents her license. Ella is thrilled. "Cathy, you're our chauffeur from now on."
"We need to check if that's legal," says Maurice.
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Dec. 20th, 2025 12:35Saturday Word: Povitica
Dec. 20th, 2025 11:46Povitica (pronounced "poh-vee-TEET-sah" in Croatian, or "poh-TEET-sah" as potica in Slovenian) is a traditional Eastern European sweet or savory nut roll bread characterized by a very thin, yeast-raised dough.
A rich filling, usually finely ground walnuts, honey and/or sugar, is spread inside and then rolled into a tight spiral. Learn how to make it yourself below:
One day to go
Dec. 20th, 2025 09:25The Wild Bells
Dec. 20th, 2025 10:00The old year is ending in dust and ashes.
I've been trying to identify the heaviness I'm feeling and I don't think it's personal because others feel it too. And I don't think it's fear because what is there to be afraid of?
No, it's grief.
Grief, sadness, remorse- everything in that particular bundle of emotions.
it's not just the drip, drip, drip of the Epstein files that's causing the grief but they're very much in our face so let them stand for the whole.
We're being told that our rulers, our cultural icons, the rich, famous and powerful are a bunch of shits who get together with other shits to behave shittily. This isn't exactly news, but it's harder to ignore than it ever has been. And we who have voted for them, bought their product, bought their lies, idolised them are part of the picture. They are everything we value and admire, so what does say about us?
Ring out wild bells.....
And what are the wild bells saying?
"Must do better, must do better, must do better..."
"Must"?
No, let's change that to "will"
Will do better, will do better, will do better.....
Al-anon evening
Dec. 19th, 2025 23:15So I got dressed and
I got eggnog and sugar free creamer. Then we took a Lyft from there to Flushing, two stops, supposedly zer to the train station and me to home.
It didn't work out that way, the driver first tried to let zer out at the subway station rather than the train station. Ze finally got out about a block away and walked. Then I was supposed to go home. The driver said there had been only one dropoff listed, I said no, we said two, and he agreed to take me to my apartment... and went off in the wrong direction. I had to tell him where to go. I eventually did get home.
But I finally got in and unpacked and put stuff away, had a bowl of cereal, and took a nap for an hour and a half.
Then I got up and puttered for a half hour til I went into the Bronx for my meeting. I had to wait too long for the 50, and it's cold and very, very windy out.
Had pizza before the meeting as usual. The meeting was small but good. I had two donuts which I shouldn't have done. M took me to th bus stop afterward.
Had to wait 10 minutes for the 25, which was cold and still awfully windy. Finally got home, and Teamed the FWiB. That was nice as always.
Called
Gratitude List:
1. The FWiB.
2. Therapy session.
3. Got two things I needed.
4. I finally got home by the Lyft.
5. Nap.
6. My meeting and the people there.
Slight mishap
Dec. 19th, 2025 18:40
Mahalia is Maurice's bandmate and friend (and former lover, very briefly - at least, they gave it a good try!) and she sang at his wedding. Professor Dang officiated. Mahalia and the Prof socialized a little at the reception. I guess he made a good impression on her.
Mahalia and her son Quentin are arriving home after work and school to find a package, postmarked from France! Wow! Inside are some sports cards in French for Quentin: "I can't wait to show my friends!" He's a sweet little kid, and even though he was being his most mature self at the wedding, I guess Professor Dang played it safe and chose a gift he could enjoy at any age.
Mahalia unfolds a large, multicolored scarf, smiling in surprise. "I saw these and thought of my American friends. Yours always, Luc Dang. I didn't even know his name was Luc."
A romance brewing? Probably not. But it's fun for both of them to think about!
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Dec. 19th, 2025 14:21Just fast
Dec. 19th, 2025 04:16Which is what we did. We started at zer place and went in to Rockefeller Center from here. We got food from a Nathan's truck. We saw the tree and went to FAO Schwartz, and the LEGO shop, and Teuscher Choclate, and walked a lot. We saw a lot of the store windows dressed for Christmas.
Finally we ate ate a gluten free Italian restaurant, and dessert at a Korean place.
Then we came back to zer place and watched two episodes of Heated Rivalry, which brings us up to date.
Now time for bed.
Gratitude List:
1. The FWiB, didn't Team but emailed.
2. Got an unexpected Christmas card from Linda's daughter Sara.
3. Called Middle Brother, he had a Christmas party today and enjoyed it.
4. Good TV.
5. Good chocolate.
6. Toasted the memory of
Jordans
Dec. 19th, 2025 08:40Jordans is a real place- one of the earliest custom-built Meeting Houses. We've pledged that in the new year we'll go on a visit. It's situated in the Chilterns, just outside Beaconsfield, not so very far away.
Meier, drawing on published sources (which are copious because the old time Quakers loved to pamphleteer) has her people speak a wonderful lingo heavily dependent on the King James Bible- and in particular the Book of Revelations. They don't say "Jesus", they say "The Lamb".