My dear, if what you describe above is true, your mother lived with Joe in a classic abuse paradigm. Women, frankly, are socialized to fall prey to exactly what happened in her world.
I speak as one who found myself in just such a place, never believing for a moment until I found myself there that I would ever allow it to happen to me.
It takes the strongest of women to make the choice to break the paradigm, particularly if that woman is older, and more strongly entrenched in a more traditional socialization.
It is unfortunate that your mother was not strong enough to break those chains.
If you can, forgive her for not being anything other than what she was socialized to be. And if you can, let go of the hatred you hold for Joe. He, as you describe, is about to exit this world. He should no longer be allowed any power in your world.
Take care, my friend. May this door closing in your world set you free of this pain.
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I speak as one who found myself in just such a place, never believing for a moment until I found myself there that I would ever allow it to happen to me.
It takes the strongest of women to make the choice to break the paradigm, particularly if that woman is older, and more strongly entrenched in a more traditional socialization.
It is unfortunate that your mother was not strong enough to break those chains.
If you can, forgive her for not being anything other than what she was socialized to be. And if you can, let go of the hatred you hold for Joe. He, as you describe, is about to exit this world. He should no longer be allowed any power in your world.
Take care, my friend. May this door closing in your world set you free of this pain.
D.